Don't Be the Reason For a Breakup

Too often, couples break up over foolishness. He said she said, misunderstandings,past arguments, and friends' opinions. One thing that cuts out 75% of that foolishness is to remember who is in the relationship. Two people. You and your lover. Don't let outside people become extra weight in your relationship. It's cool to get your best friend's opinion on your sweetie or to conversate with you buddies about your new love interest. But don't let those opinions and ideas become the sole reason for your break up. If and when you do have a good reason to break up, try to break up the healthy way. Don't blame each other for everything. Don't demand things from your partner and expect results within seconds. And don't bring up the past to make your point about whatever you are breaking up with them for. In a healthy break up, you let each other speak. Hear that person out before jumping the gun on them. Then explain what hurts you about the situation. Next try to come to a compromise about what to do about the problem. If you can't work things out then break up mutually. Meaning make sure both of you want to end the relationship or feel that you need to end it. You should walk away as friends not enemies wanting to plot revenge on one another. Getting back at an ex is another blog for another time.