Yours Mine and Ours

For a second I want to get on marriage. When you're single what's yours is yours and what's mine is mine. Like Beyonce said "Everything you own is in the box to the left." We can share but only certain things. When you get married, it's a whole different ball game. You have to share things you never thought you would share and yes, that does include your Cheerios. The reason I say this is because the "that's yours and that's mine" act gets old real quick. It looks dumb when you have to ask your wife can you have some of her yogurt or you have to ask your husband can you use his power drill. And finances... Lord have mercy. I understand if you want your little side bank account but you two do need a joint account. The reason you two got married is to become one soul and that means taking what's yours and theirs and making it ours. Trust is what you need in a marriage. If you keep saying that's my money your spouse is not going to like that and they will feel like they're just your roommate splitting bills with you and occasionally getting some romance. Don't let your marriage reach that point. Before you get married, know what kind of debt and financial stability you got and know what kind of debt and financial stability they got so there will be no surprises. When you get married you take on more than just a soul mate. You take EVERYTHING. So treat your spouse like this is ours. Prenups. You knew I was going there. I personally don't believe in them because it's like you're telling me that you are not sure our marriage will last for a lifetime and this agreement is your safety net. I'm not all about that. If you are not sure about your marriage, simply don't get married. I mean come on, how many old couples do you know have a prenup in their marriage? I don't know any. You know why? Because back in the day people built marriage based on love. Now we got people getting married because they like the idea of being married or they don't want to be alone or they know their spouse has money and they will be taken care of. Before you get married, consider the values you are marrying for and then take that step. If it's not enough, don't go there.