How Many is Too Many?

Today's topic is a little out of my experience so I decided to do some research to figure things out. How many sex partners must someone have before they're deemed undatable?

It seems that people make their cutoff number based off their number of sex partners. So if someone has slept with 5 people dating someone who's slept with 25 is a lot and they might not feel comfortable dating someone with that  many unless they're searching for someone with a lot of experience. But if that same person was to date someone who had 45 partners then that doesn't make their number seem as big.

So maybe there is no magic number but there is a personal number and it doesnt really matter how many people you've slept with, somebody will find your number to be normal.

Dealing With a Stalker or a "Bugaboo"

We all have done it. Even I'm guilty of it. A guy or girl has asked you for you number and you give it to them. Maybe you already knew things weren't gonna work and you gave them a chance or maybe you knew it was gonna be a mistake but you gave it to them anyway. Either way they have your number and you just can't get them off your back. They text you constantly. They call you more than twice a day and sometimes they don't even give you enough time to return the call before calling back. They are just as aggrivating as a bunch of roaches! They are persistent. They are continuous. And no, they don't know the meaning of the word no. Scary enough, some take it to the next level by memorizing your schedule, sitting outside your house, annoying your friends and family by asking about you, and relentlessly trying to win your love and affection. Some are more subtle and may not be aware that they are bugaboos but they constantly call and text even after you've nicely told them to tone it down a bit. They don't mind expressing their true feelings even though you've told them a hundred times that you don't share the same feelings. So you need a plan and you need one quick before things get out of hand. To get rid of them you have to be defiant. Not aggressive but show them that you mean what you say. Sometimes you might have to threaten them with a restraining order. Others need just a little shove. Changing your number will only work temporarily because in huge cases they find your number and in smaller ones, they always seem to run into you asking for your number. Most people use the "oh my phone is off right now." others go for the punch and say "I do not wish to give out my number." Sometimes people bring out the really big guns and fuss them out just to give them a scare. Whatever the solution the outcome is never pretty and you feel bad for a little bit but them not bothering you anymore feels great! I feel there is no ultimate solution for this problem. For future refrences, think twice before giving out your number and watch out for the weirdos. They have the same traits as normal people but their weird tendencies come out later on. Good luck and this post will not help you avoid them. Let's be real about the situation, you can't exactly duck and cover when they come running you just have to go through the process.

Dating Outside of Your Religion

If you're religious, dating can have its limitations and that can sometimes be upsetting. However, these limitations are beneficial in the long run. Me being Pentecostal definitely has some obstacles when it comes to dating. Finding the right Christian, someone who will keep me up with my faith. With these limitations, it causes singles to feel somewhat doubtful about our future mate. And we question if there really is a being out there for us. But going outside of your religion is not the answer. Especially if your mate is deeply rooted in their faith, most likely, they're not going to change their faith for you nor will you ever come to a common place if you have arguments about your religion. suppose you decide to get married and have kids. That argument about what god your kids will serve will never go away and that becomes a major problem for your family and for your marriage. Not saying that you can't make the differences work because if you have then well done! But if you haven't then I'm sure you know what you need to do. What's the meaning of relationships again? Two people sharing common interests and traits. Religion is not only a lifestyle but a trait. Depending on how religious you are, it becomes your DNA makeup don't you want to find someone to share that with?

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Battle of the Sexes

Men Vs. Women. What's the big problem?

Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. Men are simple, women are crazy. However you want to say it, women and men have different levels of thinking and thus comes the problem.

I put it this way, men are simple. They are also problem solvers. Sometimes women just want men to lend an ear and they end up getting more than they bargained for. Men want women to stop trying to change them and accept them for who they are. Sometimes men tell women who they are and women take it and try to change it to fit their standards. There lies problems.

Men get a good idea and go after it. If it doesn't turn out right, fine, try something new. Women follow the W.O.M.A.N acronym:
Worry
Overthink
Meditate
Analyze
Negotiate
Before a woman goes into a situation she tries to answer a million questions about it. How does it benefit her? Who will be involved? How risky is this? What happens next? How long does it take? How much does she need to invest? And so on.

Men don't want to get into feelings. They have their own way of expressing themselves. Sometimes they'd rather talk to their friends about you rather than talk to you about you. They'd rather let last night's fight go rather than talk about how you made them feel with some of the stuff you said. Men will be men and women will be women.

It's not that men don't understand women because they do. They just have a different view of us. That's why communication should be one of the first things you do as a couple. When couples talk, they gain more understanding of each other and find it easier to work as a team. When a man knows what makes a woman tick, he can then figure out how to avoid that. When a woman figures out a man's plan, she can figure out where she fits in.

If a woman doesn't see herself in her man's plan then it's time to pack it up and make for an exit. If a man can't figure out his lady's heartstrings then that's a tangled web and he should soon be making a break for it. Men won't sit down and chat with a woman like they're girlfriends. Women won't stop expressing themselves. But there is a common place, it's up to us to find it.

I'm Back!!

I'm coming back with all new topics and discussions. I'm also updating this blog little by little. SO changes will be  occurring as you look. For those of you NOT on the cog train yet, I suggest you get on it and get on it soon because these blogs will be very interactive, very helpful and as you all know, very entertaining. I got what you wanna hear and if there's any requests don't hesitate to let me know.