Over-Bearing Mother-in-Law

Have you seen Monster-in-Law? Jennifer Lopez gets my goat every time I watch the big fight on her wedding day. Marriage is already rough. An impossible mother-in-law makes it no better. But it is true that when you get married, you're marrying the whole family. That includes sneaky uncle Mack, Busy body Aunt Betty and Unappeasing Mom. A mom makes her judgment on her child's mate within the first 30 seconds of meeting them. They usually never change their opinion no matter what suck up things you do. The first Mamas to break are the Mama's boys mamas. The bond is too strong to break so you either deal with it or remove yourself from the situation. Then it's the mamas who shelter their kids. These mamas need bribes and you need to be stern with them but don't be disrespectful. You love their child and you would never do anything to hurt them, they need to know this. What about the nosey mamas? You've seen them. They are really living their lives through their children so when the big day comes up and she suggests you use ivory instead of white this has absolutely nothing to do with you. If these mamas don't like you they have no problem showing it. They want what's best for their child yet they are forgetting that you are an important factor now that you're getting married or have been married for some time now. Being respectful around them is a big one but make sure that you are also receiving respect. If your mate refuse to speak with their mom about the issue then they are either unphased by it or too afraid to face their mom. This can become a huge problem for your relationship but you must remember that there are bigger trenches than mom. For those of you with great MILs I am totally happy for you! And those of you still wanting to run your MIL over with your care every Thanksgiving all I can say is good luck.