Arguments in a relationship are healthy. What's unhealthy are arguments that occur too often or no arguments at all. If you find yourself in any of these categories, it would be good to assess your relationship and find the cure before something worse arises.
When arguments occur too often, 1 of 2 things happen.
1. You constantly argue about the same thing. If its money matters, the inlaws, or even bedroom disputes, its time to communicate and come to a common ground. Express how your mate makes you feel in this situation. NEVER point blame or make your mate feel guilty for it all. Try working through it together. List what is wrong and then list possible ways to solve the problem. Actively put in suggestions as well as actively listen to your partner.
2. If you argue a lot about meaningless things you should put the petty differences aside to build on your relationship. A relationship is about give and take. You've gotta give a little to get somewhere.
Not arguing at all means the communication in your relationship is dead. It means that you feel you cant open up to your partner about things beneath the surface. No communication means no trust and if you cant trust your partner with emotional information then what is your relationship built on? Your mate is there to help you work through these things and you both won't always agree so arguments are healthy.
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