Everybody is different. Nobody takes the same exact healing process. Some of us heal quickly while others are wounded for a very long time. Healing also depends on the circumstance of the break up, who did the breaking up and how much did the person meant to you. There's a little saying that goes: time heals all wounds. It true and through times you will have to complete all of these steps to get over your ex.
1. Acceptance
Accept the fact that you guys are through. You guys may get back together but just in case you don't, accept it now.
2. Deal With It
Once you have accepted that it's over, it's time to deal. Cry, get angry, laugh, shout, jump around, whatever you have to do to get through the fact that you two have broken up.
3. Love You
You have shed the last of your tears, thrown the last of your punches. You are ready to love the one and only person who as been there for you since day on-- you. Don't play the blame game and put it all on yourself. Don't start hating yourself for how the relationship went. Love yourself so everyone else around you can love you too.
4. Put The Past Behind
He/She is gone. I know it sucks but by now in the healing process if they wanted you they would've tried to make it work by now. So be friends or do whatever but put that chapter behind you. Say lesson learned and work on the future.
5. Find Something/Someone to Fill the Void
I'm not advocating that you be a slut and sleep with someone else 5 minutes after the breakup. Once you have completed the other four steps, you will be completely over your ex. Maybe there is a hot guy who wants your number, give it to him but take things slow. Maybe the cute chick on the elevator deserves a chance let her in, you don't hurt anymore. If there is no one, take up a hobby. You miss having someone less when your schedule is filled with interesting things to do. Don't forget to take time for yourself. Of course that is another blog for another time.
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