Trust

I have a friend, lets call her... Suzie. Suzie has a boyfriend. Let's call him... Chad. Suzie and Chad have been dating off and on for about four months and now Suzie has completely lost trust for Chad. When he is not with her, she thinks he's up to no good. She always asks me what I think and I put myself into her shoes and think about what I would do if I thought my man was cheating. Here is what I came up with. Cheaters are innocent until proven guilty. You can search phones, pockets and laptops all day but most likely you will find exactly what you're looking for. A good relationship has trust. You can't be around each other 24/7 to know exactly what one another is doing all the time so you have to trust that your sweetie is staying faithful. I told Suzie that if she asks him questions about what he's doing and his story is not straight then there is a red flag. On the other hand she needs to understand that if he feels that he is not being trusted he will most likely step out and find someone who will. Overbearing pushes you sweetheart away. Give them a reason to hold you closer. Trust is number one in a relationship and you can never feel you're being told the truth if you can't trust. When does suspicion turn into paranoia? When you get like Suzie. She is constantly accusing Chad of sleeping with someone else and keeping tabs on him. That is a BIG no no in the world of relationships. Your sweetie needs to know they can be trusted. Don't make triple threats because nothing may be going on. Chad may just want some time to himself, which is okay. And then in her case he may be slowly drifting away from their relationship because he feels he can't be trusted. Don't be the reason for your break up. That will be the topic for another blog, another time.